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The Magic of Self Confidence

There is something common in all achievers and that is self-
confidence. It gives them courage to take greater risks and achieve
more than they ever thought possible. Self-confidence extends their
reach and makes them do miracles.

Self-confidence is our attitude which gives us a positive and
realistic views about ourselves. It helps us to trust our abilities
and believe that we can achieve what we dream.

Self-confident people have realistic expectations of themselves and
others. Even if some of these expectations are not met they remain
positive, accept themselves and look optimistically to conquer
greater heights.

They feel good about themselves even when others don't appreciate
and acknowledge their efforts. They don't long for the approval of
others and are willing to risk and do what others are scared of
doing because they believe in their ability to win. Jack Welch
says, "Self-confidence gives you courage and extends your reach. It
lets you take greater risks and achieve far more than you ever
thought possible."

Self-confidence is contagious. Self-confident people instill
confidence in others and gain the confidence of others. It is the
secret of effective and successful living.

Our self-confidence is expressed in our behaviour, body language,
the way we dress, talk, look, walk, what we say and think, the way
we act and relate etc. A self-confident person fears nothing, has
attained the truth and lives free of error.

The signs of low self-confidence are feeling of guilt, skepticism,
self-shame, pride, fear, pretension, laziness, unforgiving
attitudes, depression, lack of trust in oneself and others,
pessimism, inferiority complex, procrastination, self-doubt,
passivity, submissiveness, isolation and jealousy etc.

Be glad there are ways by which we can build up our self-confidence.

1. Have faith in yourself

Our self-confidence increases when we believe in our abilities to
perform and manage things. All of us have innumerable talents and
potentials, only we are often not aware of many of them. To believe
in our capabilities we first of all must identify what we have. For
this we have to do a SWOT analysis and realistically look at
ourselves. We will discover that we are people of great
possibilities and potentials. This faith in our abilities will boost
our self-confidence. We must dwell more on our strengths and use
them to negate and correct our weaknesses.

2. Look at your achievements

We can successfully do so many things. We too are great achievers.
But we often brood over our failures and make our lives miserable.
Think often of your successes and this will help you to increase
your self-confidence. Our fear of failures prevents us from taking
up anything new and challenging. Remember that we have so many
qualities and abilities and that we too can be successful if we
perform with all our energy, mind and heart.

3. Feel good about yourself

No one can make us feel inferior without our permission. To boost
our self-confidence first of all we must feel good about ourselves.
The secret of all successful and happy living is to love oneself.
When I am unhappy with myself I see unhappiness everywhere and I
make all those around me unhappy. I must accept myself and feel good
about the way I am, the way I look, my colour, my size, my shape and
believe that the world can't be same if I am not there. Enjoy
yourself once in a while by joining your friends for a night out,
enjoying a good meal, going for a movie, playing some games etc.
Laugh and forget yourself and enjoy some moments and run away from
your work and stress. Such activities can boost your self-
confidence.

4. Fix challenging goals

Goals can do miracles in our lives. Greater the goals greater is our
self-confidence. We should have both small goals and big goals. The
achievement of small goals will give us enough enthusiasm and self-
confidence to run towards bigger and more challenging goals. We must
think positively about our abilities to achieve our goals and reward
ourselves when we achieve them.

5. Bring in commitment and passion

Our self-confidence depends on the degree of our commitment to a
cause. If we are mediocre and half-hearted the result will also be
same. We must commit ourselves to success and become passionate
about what we do. Our commitment is expressed in our eagerness and
desire to learn and develop new skills, knowledge and talents. When
we are more prepared with commitment, knowledge and skills to do a
thing we become more confident.

The elephant and the maina were great friends. But the elephant
always felt sad that he was not able to fly like his friend maina.
So one day he asked maina to teach him how to fly. The maina agreed
and led him to a cliff.

Pulling out a feather she said: "hold this feather tight in your
mouth and flap your ears and jump down this cliff and you will fly."

The elephant belived her words, held the feather in his mouth and
flapped his ears and behold he began to fly.

He flew over the villages, the rivers and cities and returned to his
friend very happy and told her " Your feather is very powerful. Can
I have this feather because I want use it whenever I want to fly."

The maina said, "its not my feather. It's a hair from your tail. You
only need to believe in your ability to fly. Believe in yourself and
you will do miracles."

Believe in yourself, have confidence in yourself and you will indeed
do miracles.
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