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ImageA disturbing or distressing sexual dream needn't always imply what it depicts. Our expert helps you decode your subconscious lingo.

At some point, we've all had a sexual dream. Whether it was exotic and wild, strange and unsettling or gentle and romantic, there is always a good reason for why you dreamt it at a certain time. However, interpreting dreams isn't as straight an exercise as one might imagine. It varies with each individual and is subject to emotions and situations prevalent in his or her life at the time.

While dreams can be a window into the subconscious, they rarely imply exactly what they mean. It's also possible for a deeply exciting dream to not have a sexual significance at all. So if you've just woken up from a dream where you were engaging in naughty activity with your high school headmistress, it could just suggest your angst against authority.

Psychiatrist Dr Harish Shetty helps understand what lies beneath.

It's all in the mind
"Interpreting what exactly a dream means is very difficult since it means different things for different people. However, the basic parameters are usually the same," explains Shetty. In deep sleep, the subconscious brings to fore what the mind has been exposed to during the day. An unfulfilled libido due to social restraint will find expression here. "In teenagers for example, where the libidinal drive is usually at its prime and it's easy for the hormones to be stimulated and aroused by anything that is pleasurable, be it good food, good exercise or a happy thought," he says.

Humans are born with a few instinctual responses - birth, breathing, eating, pain, pleasure, libido. Of these, sex or libidinal drive is the only thing that can be consciously denied. Shetty explains, "This is where people learn to channel their libido through things that give them pleasure. Priests for example, deal with celibacy through religion."

Taboo thoughts
According to Shetty, images or thoughts that are more scarring, are usually what the conscious mind deems morally unfit to think. Your subconscious mind also works as a vent and gives seemingly 'immoral' thoughts a window of acceptance. Instead of trying to analyse it, accept it and move on. Dreams of a more traumatic nature, those involving blood, murder, exhibitionism, homosexuality on the other hand, should however, be explored further. According to Shetty, these dreams could represent a memory that is aborted by the conscious mind.

"I once treated a man who often woke up with a terrible fright of bananas, was very afraid of the dark even as an adult, and was refusing to marry," says Shetty. "Upon further examination, we discovered that he was brutally sodomised by his uncle."

Memory works
If a recurring dream is traumatic to the extent that it inhibits your normal day-to-day functioning, seeking professional help is advisable. In such cases, freeing the individual of the guilt and making sure they don't feel responsible, helps relieve their latent demons.

As a child, unhappy or unpleasant thoughts are internalised and stored as fear, sadness or anger and disturbing dreams are the mind's way of venting. On the whole, the dreaming mind can show you what you lack in life, and sex symbolizes your desire to bring that quality into yourself.

A few interpretations of typically recurring dreams
Getting passionate with your best friend, boss: This could signify your attraction towards a certain quality they posses and how you aim to be able to develop it yourself.

Having sex in full public view: This could mean two things, if the crowds watching you makes you self-conscious, you could be afraid of what people think about your relationship and how they judge it. If you are enjoying the experience, you could have a hankering to flaunt your sizzling sexual escapades.

Cheating on your partner: If these dreams soon follow marriage or an engagement, it could be a simple reaction to such a big life change. It needn't mean you regret it, just that you feel like you are missing out on prospects. However, if you have been committed for a while, these dreams could also signify feelings of emotional abandonment and resentment.

Same sex dreams: This almost never means what it says. It symbolises that you take pride in your womanly or manly attributes. Same sex dreams are common during pregnancy when the body is in uber-feminine mode. Your dream is more likely a celebration of that achievement than an indication of any latent sexual desires.

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